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It is days like today that make me wonder about my role as a mediator among the different circles I meander in. It is also days like today that make me ever so immensely glad to not be in Albany any more.

Last week was a bit odd for me... I had a number of people unfriend me, one a day. Now normally, this kind of thing would make me go "eh". The first was doing a purge, and we never really had that strong of a relationship anyway. The second may have just been doing some cleaning, the third was... I don't know quite what the third was. Whatever. It was just the timing of things that made me stop for a moment.

Fast forward to this week and I am watching a veritable shitstorm of drama flying around people in the capital district. A war because, quite frankly, one person didn't think. The point at which their thought processes stopped is subject to opinion. Perhaps it was when they found someone's LJ account open and decided to read through entries that they were otherwise barred from. Perhaps it was when they wrote about breaking the trust among a number of people just because they wanted to get their spiteful little jollies. Maybe it was when they decided to *brag* about doing such a thing and spit forth numerous inflammatory comments about what they'd read. (If you're still waffling on whether they possess cerebral capacities at all, this person promptly threw up their hands, denied all blame in the matter, and cut and run. While not polite, this may turn out to be their first intelligent decision in the process)

Of course, faulty thought processes are not solely the realm of this person. When someone gets involved with one sibling, then the other, and nobody actually talks to anyone else about it and hurt feelings are the result, "Really fucking dumb" can be freely applied to any of them. Rest assured, dear readers, it has been. Numerous times. Unfortunately, I've not done so directly since I've been removed by 150 miles or more.

It is easy for me to sit back now, look at these people, and say "What a dumbass." Had I been local when all of this was starting up, I might have gathered the energy to sit the aforementioned siblings down and say "What the FUCK do you think you're doing?" (the first non-thinker referenced above was written off years ago back when they wrote what I feel to be one of the most self-important (and simultaneously condescending and self-denying) letters I've ever seen a 19 year old put to text)

The peacemaker in me pokes his head out and asks "Could I have done something to stop this?"

And the part of me that has spent so much time developing comes forth to say "It's not your fucking problem."

And then I kick back with another beer to wait and see who'll be the next person to fall through the ice on hypothermia theater.

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wow. i actually figured out what you were probably referencing and i am also very glad not to be involved or even knowledgeable that anything was happening.

yipe.

miss you btw.

but now i have to go unfriend you to add to your paranoia.

I understand completely. I don't know what happened, because I don't tend to read a lot of the commentary on posts. But being my own 90 something miles away in the other direction of Albany while this chaos has been going on is a wierd feeling.

I have no idea who you are talking about, but am secretly glad.

Well, maybe not so secretly....

Okay, I'll bite, what the hell letter are you talking about?

Wait.. I am *really* confused. I've lost the thread here. Who wrote this? Is everybody okay?

*hug*

yuck.

i've decided i loathe LJ drama. *sigh*

Sounds lovely. I have come to the conclusion that I probably don't know any of the people involved ('cept you, of course, and you're kind of tangential) and for this I am glad.

Godspeed. Repeat after me: "I have done my time, it's not my fucking problem. I have done my time, it's not my fucking problem." Add Zen, a bit of "om," mix, and repeat.

I'm very sorry to hear about all your problems with drama. I hope it will get solved or you will be able to hide from it.

I hear I missed a lot of drama this past weekend at a local Sci-Fi Con and I'm incredibly glad I went to battle and shot people instead.

Be ever so glad that you are oh-so-many miles away. This is all happening literally twenty feet away from me and I am *not* getting involved. Not in lj, not in real life, not with any parties. And I mean any parties for there are several dramas occuring simultaneously.
Unfortunately being a peacekeeper here, tends to get one shot.
So I am staying in the background and watching those that are sitting at the kid's table at the moment.

Honestly, I envy you your distance.

The random wandering monster
or the villiage idiot?

I think I guessed the nature of the drama and I don't regularly read the lj's of the people involved.

*Enjoying my place as a second hand sectator, wondering if we will get to Poor decision Opera on Ice*

I'm not normally one for drama, but I'm just glad it's not me. I'll have to sleuth out this new bit of intrigue...

As for involvement with siblings, um.....whoa.

Okay, my 2 cents again.

If someone slept with me and one of my siblings (hell, my brother or my sister, being that my brother's gay) I think I'd be incredibly repulsed for all time. My god--how do you deal with that? Is there anyone on this increasingly nongreen Earth who would be okay with that, or is it just me?

I'm all for the kink, don't get me wrong, but this disgusts me on one of the most fundamental levels. Besides, isn't the best sex based on a structure of mutual trust? It's one thing to violate that with some unknown other man or woman, yet another to choose a sibling.

Is it just me who's so freaking bothered by this notion? Why do people do these bad, bad things, Daddy?

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Huzzah! I'm out of the loop!

::stir stir stir::

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So who failed their saving throw?

Poor decision opera

this thread is bringing me far too much amusement.

wow.